Summer brings sun, warmth, new smells and lots of excitement. But for our more sensitive children, summer can also throw off schedules and keep kids feeling off kilter thanks to all of the new sensations of the season.
The Jenny Evolution is joined by Michele Gianetti, author of I Believe In You, who is sharing her own personal tips on how to help make summer the fun season it should be for our sensory kids. Here’s to tips for a happy summer with sensory kids!
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Tips for a Happy Summer with Sensory Kids
As I am writing this my daughter Elizabeth is upstairs in her room relaxing with a movie and what is probably her fifth snack of the day. She is calm and happy after having had a rather full day. Seeing her like this reminds me of the times early in her life when calm and happy were two very rare commodities. Early on in her life, when we did not know what disorders she had, we could simply not help her. Once we knew what she had, it then became up to us to figure out HOW to help her.
One thing I we did was read, any and all we could, about Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). This is one of the most important things to do because once you understand what SPD is, does and means for a lifetime, you will be able to start to understand your child and why they act and react in certain manners. Because SPD can affect each child differently, it is important to know the most you can about YOUR child.
We were able to get ideas on how to help her system stay calm and to get an understanding of how SPD affects Elizabeth. We are now 18 years into this journey with our daughter and as such our understanding of this disorder and its co-morbid disorder of Dyspraxia have grown. We have truly experienced a veritable lifetime of experiences with these disorders, some have been amazing successes some have been huge struggles, but with that in mind I wanted to offer some thoughts on how to help make summer, for our children, the fun season it should be.
SPD KNOWS NO SCHEDULE
Summer is supposed to be a fun-in-the-sun kind of time but something I learned early on is that SPD does not take a break for summer! I think it is important to know that summer can actually bring about more challenges because your child will be challenged in facing new situations and sensations than are typical as well as changes in routines from the school year. So you can prepare ways to help them adjust to a new schedule as well as have fun.
MORE IS NOT ALWAYS BETTER
I can remember early in Elizabeth’s life those trips we made to accomplish my LONG list of errands. I could see that she was close to a meltdown but I thought “just one more store, I can run in and out quickly.” Well, of course that did not happen but a meltdown sure did. I learned that sometimes it is better to go back later for that LAST stop than it is to have the fallout from a meltdown.
KNOW WHAT THEY NEED TO CALM DOWN
I know that now Elizabeth loves to be in her room, lying under a heavy down comforter with her scented, battery candles on and in a quiet room. This is her “go-to” scenario when she is overloaded. Whatever it is that your child needs to calm down their system, offer it to them when you see the first signs of a meltdown. It helps to talk to your child about your plans BEFORE they are in the throes of the meltdown. In other words, take a moment, when they are calm, to tell them how you are going to help them when they feel overloaded. This way they know what to expect and you know you have a plan to help them.
MAKE A SCHEDULE
I mentioned how their schedule changed from school to summer, so try to make a schedule of events for the day on a wipe off board. This helps them stay organized and takes away the anxiety of “what comes next” Since transitions can be hard, helping them plan ahead really helps. Plus the wipe off board allows for adjustments to be made as the days unfold. Our schedule is quite loosely planned but it does the trick.
GO WHERE THEY LIKE
A pretty simple thought but truly one to do. We used to, shall I say, offer a trip to the park or the bakery as the “treat” for a good day. Sure you can call it a bribe if you wish, but having that special something does help.
APPRECIATE THEIR GIFTS
I had a friend many years ago, who was the queen of spontaneity. She would get up in the morning on a summer day and just take her three kids and go…anywhere…everywhere…anytime…all the time… No real plans, no real schedule and no real problems. Her children learned that this was their summertime life with mom. Sure they were a bit cranky from their cat naps but overall, she pulled this off. Me? I would talk to her in the morning and politely decline joining them on their day because I knew Elizabeth simply could not do it. I would hang up, look around my house, and feel??? envious? angry? wistful? …suffice it to say I felt ALOT! It is hard not to have these feelings but our children bring so many gifts to us that once you see them, you will cherish them! Elizabeth has the kindest heart, she CARES how others feel, she loves life and people ( how many can truly say that), she has been my greatest teacher about life…the gifts are there!!! Our children are amazing individuals.
HAVE A BACKUP PLAN
If you think your child will love the fireworks but you have never been, have a plan for what you will do if they cannot handle the noise. If you are sure the water park will be loved but your child screams instead, have a plan for how to handle this. It is far easier to take the time to plan out “plan B” than to try to deal with a meltdown while your other children are sitting there with their waterpark armbands on, waiting to keep playing. Offering out life’s experiences is what we need to do but we also need to recognize the role SPD may play in the experience, since SPD does not take a break.
I am heading upstairs now to check on Elizabeth and get ready to go to the pool. She knows that we are headed their next, it is on her schedule. The sun is shining, the pool is waiting and our beautiful child is ready to enjoy the fun summer brings….her way.
Blessing to everyone for a fun, safe, SPD friendly, summer.
Michele Gianetti is a registered nurse, who previously worked as a school nurse before becoming a stay-at-home mom and eventually an advocate for her second child, who has dyspraxia and SPD. You can read more of her writings at Michele Gianetti.
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