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The One Simple Trick to Instantly Self Calm a Child

September 16, 2020 by Mommy Evolution 13 Comments

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This simple trick will teach your child how to instantly get themselves to self calm in many situations.

Sometimes we wish we had a magic wand as a parent in getting our children to calm down when their emotions run high.

Presented by Mommy Catharsis at Contemplative Chaos, you’ll be surprised at how well this trick works!

Be sure to check out even more of my helpful parenting tips, too!

The ONE Trick to Instantly Self-Calm a Child | Mommy Evolution

This picture look familiar to anyone? It was brand-new to me until last spring when my now four year-old son (Big C) received the diagnosis of ASD and the floodgates opened.

Suddenly, I was inundated with cue cards and visuals designed to help us as parents “manage” our son.

I’m learning very quickly that parents have very mixed emotions about this kind of stuff.

I’ve read blogs where parents are outraged by concepts like “quiet hands” and see techniques such as ABA therapy akin to torture and brainwashing.

(I’ll admit I’ve had my share of bad experiences).

I’m becoming a quick study and am discovering very quickly that I learn best simply by following the cues of my own kid (crazy concept, huh?) ABA wasn’t for us, but man, does he dig the visuals!  

My husband and I tried a visual schedule this summer, and it was like a magical talisman.

Does it work 100% of the time?  

Of course not, but it sure does help.

Just making him aware of what’s coming next alleviates so much stress for him (and his Mommy too!)

An extension of the visual schedule are the use of visual cue cards.

His teachers at preschool and daycare use them often, especially during circle time, when he struggles to sit still and focus.

Imagine. A four-year old boy who doesn’t want to sit still.

Body Calm: A Simple Self-Calming Technique for Children

All joking aside, while I’m pleased the visual cards are helping him focus, I’m way more concerned with managing his aggression.  

He’s an emotional little guy, and if he’s mad (and tired) enough, he will hit, throw, kick, scream – even bite on the rare occasion.

This is where the “Body Calm” technique has proven effective.

Again, for my son.

Self Hug to Calm a Child

When he starts to escalate, he’s learning to self-regulate, doing as the picture illustrates and wrapping his arms around his chest and taking deep breaths.

Does he usually need prompting?

Sure.

Does it always work  

Heck no.

But I know he’s getting it.

Case in point:

Just a few weeks ago, I was all in a huff because my husband (who usually does morning drop-off with the boys) had to go into work early.

I was stressing trying to pack lunches, book bags and get my two boys out the door before my own job start time of 7:15 am.

Big C, sensing my distress (he’s highly attune to emotions) very loudly proclaimed to me, “Mommy, you need to get your body calm!”

It totally worked.

I busted out laughing, said, “You’re right,” and we did it together.

I’m happy to report I had a calm rest of the day thanks to my little life coach.

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Find more help tips in the Voices of Special Needs series on  Mommy Evolution!

About Mommy Catharsis: In the winter of 2014, her three year-old son was diagnosed with autism. Suddenly, she had a lot to blog about. 

For about a year, she processed her son’s diagnosis through writing, making invaluable connections with other parents with similar struggles, helping her mature into a better, more self-aware mother in the process. You can find her on Contemplative Chaos.

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Comments

  1. Margaret@YTherapySource says

    September 2, 2015 at 9:03 am

    VIsual cue cards and schedules are so beneficial for all young children. It helps them to see what steps are left to complete the process. It can be very helpful during those exact moments you are talking about – morning “rush hour” getting out the door, bedtime routines, etc. They don’t have to be high tech either – just a few sketches, drawings or photos with simple text work great. Giving yourself a big hug is a great technique to self calm!

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    • Jennifer Hughes says

      September 2, 2015 at 9:31 am

      We love visual cue cards in our house… and it’s actually on my to-do to update them for the new school year 🙂

      Reply
      • Shosh says

        February 28, 2016 at 11:12 am

        Can you please tell me where I can get visual cue cards?

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        • The Jenny Evolution says

          February 29, 2016 at 10:34 am

          I know you can buy them but often people make their own to fit exactly what their child needs.

          Reply
  2. Yvonne says

    September 2, 2015 at 12:33 pm

    What a lovely post! It’s wonderful that your son is able to help calm himself and to remind you!

    Reply
  3. Melinda says

    September 2, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    Great technique!

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  4. Full Spectrum Mama says

    September 3, 2015 at 8:24 am

    Love it! You’re right, MC – there is SOOOOOOO much info and momentum toward “fixing” our kids and selves and sure we are ambivalent. But this is so simple and loving.
    Thanks, Jenny and MC,
    Love,
    FSM

    Reply
  5. Renae says

    December 23, 2015 at 9:13 am

    I love that you’re so real about this stuff! Great read!

    Reply
  6. Emily says

    May 16, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    Love this! It’s funny, all the therapists and all the things we’ve tried on my son with ASD and one of the best suggestions we got was to tell him to breathe and then model deep breathing with him. He was two and I thought the suggestion was silly. He began doing it almost immediately with prompting and its been a great tool ever since. He’s five now and needs more tools to help self regulate. I love this and am definitely going to try it. Thanks!

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    • The Jenny Evolution says

      May 16, 2016 at 3:41 pm

      Sometimes the simplest methods are the best!

      Reply
  7. Kristin says

    May 23, 2016 at 12:11 pm

    Visuals!!! As a teacher, I have seen them work magic as well. I love them so much I made a video to try to help people understand their importance for some kids – with special needs or not.
    Check it out and feel free to share:

    https://youtu.be/s1eZ7h6u3JM

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  8. Beth says

    October 11, 2018 at 8:58 am

    When kids are taught to co-regulate these types of self-regulation becomes so natural to them. They have to learn how to identify their feelings and ask for help. Resiliencey is built on relationships!

    Reply
  9. Chris L. says

    August 23, 2021 at 2:52 am

    What a lovely post! Keep sharing such informative posts. Thanks for sharing.

    Reply

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