We all strive to be the best parents we can possibly be… but there are just some parenting mistakes our kids really and truly hate (and so do we).
Freelance writer Jennifer Livingston is joining us today to share her insights into the 5 parts of your parenting style your kids really do hate.
5 Big Parenting Mistakes Your Kids Hate
Most parents do their best when it comes to raising their children and establishing rules both in and outside of the home. Although some people adopt a parenting style that their own parents used, others try to follow books and expert advice with their kids’ upbringing.
When it comes to how you raise your children, there are a few parts that your kids dislike and likely needs to be changed.
Your Lack of Patience
For parents who take a military-style approach to parenting, this can mean having a lack of patience with kids and expectations that are unrealistic. You may assume that your children will become more disciplined and mature with your aggressive parenting style, but it can cause distance in your relationship with your children.
If you have a lack of grace for your child and are quick to implement discipline, they’ll become prone to walking on eggshells when you’re around. Understand their maturity level and look at their intentions before you’re quick to send them to timeout or their room.
Whether you have a fear of your children getting hurt or want to closely monitor their active lifestyles, helicopter parenting can feel suffocating for children of all ages. The lack of freedom that is provided to the child will make them quick to rebel as they get older, making it important to avoid worrying too much about their safety or well-being whether they’re on the playground or are at a friend’s house.
Yelling at a child out of anger is one of the most harmful parenting styles that your kids likely hate. Many parents can find it difficult to control their emotions when kids color on the walls or act disobediently.
Yelling not only scares the children but doesn’t get the point across. Talk calmly and in a stern tone to show how you feel without creating a hostile environment in the home.
Comparing the Kids
Comparison can occur between siblings when parents want to set the example of what they expect in the home. Avoid comparing kids to one another when it comes to their accomplishments or habits.
Instead, value each child as an individual and recognize that they will each have different strengths and challenges, making it important to approach each kid differently with how you parent them.
Failing to Set Limits
Although most children would love to be raised without rules for a day or two, they thrive more off of limitations that are established in the household. Parents may try to love their children by avoiding discipline or rules, but this can cause the child to have a lack of safety and security in the home.
Children need to know which behaviors are acceptable or unacceptable to thrive in life and in their surroundings. Limits also help children to establish a sense of responsibility for their actions, which can allow them to feel proud of themselves when they perform well. Keep the rules clear and consistent to avoid confusion and maintain a healthy parenting style that your child can thrive off of.
As a parent, it’s important to take a step back and evaluate your own parenting mistakes to ensure that you’re benefiting your children and are allowing them to develop in healthy ways. Although a certain parenting style may come naturally, it doesn’t mean that it’s allowing the child to be raised in a healthy home.
Make it a point to facilitate open communication with your child to ensure that they have a strong relationship with you and don’t end up resenting the way that you raised them.
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About Jennifer Livingston: Freelance writer Jennifer Livingston has two kids, one of which is now a teenager. Jennifer believes being a parent is one of the biggest challenges and also one of the biggest blessings.