No Wedding Ring for Me Cause I’m Fat

I don’t wear my wedding ring. I didn’t lose it, and I’m not taking a stand against being “claimed” by a man. I don’t wear my wedding ring because I’m fat. Clean and simple.

The word “fat” is such an ugly word. It conjures up the image of a lazy, undisciplined and slovenly person. Perhaps “obese” would be a better term. But the fact is we only have so much energy to dedicate during the day. And as moms, much of our energy is directed towards other people. So when it comes to taking care of ourselves, we put ourselves at the bottom of the list. When we finally decide to do something for ourselves, there isn’t any energy left. I’m trying to turn that around.

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I didn’t gain weight by being lazy. I earned every single pound, fair and square. From spending years of driving my kids to and from occupational therapy for Sensory Processing Disorder to starting up several websites, including Mommy Evolution and The Sensory Spectrum, there just wasn’t time left to worry about exercising and always eating healthy. That was my choice. And now I’m making a choice to put those things on the forefront and do something about my health.

Why I want to get in shape

  • To not feel tired
  • To keep up with my two boys
  • To not feel embarrassed of my body
  • To fit into my clothes again. I’ll be damned if I’m going to buy new ones

My Inspirations

  • My boys — who need a mom who can be as active as they are
  • My closet full of clothes — only a percentage of which I can wear

Rather than going on a diet, which is another one of those nasty words, I’m incorporating smart eating choices back into my life. To help, I’ve joined  My Fitness Pal, which helps you track what you’re eating and your exercise. It’s free, and I encourage you to join me on My Fitness Pal and add me as a friend. We can root for each other’s wins and support each other when we need it. I’ve already lost 9 pounds!

As part of my journey, you’ll start seeing more articles about eating and staying healthy on Mommy Evolution, too. I hope you’ll join me as I evolve into my healthier self and share your own experiences along the way.


  1. Been there! If you’re ever looking for support, don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I’m a coach and love to help people 🙂 I will NOT pressure you into buying a thing, I just genuinely love to help others.

    I do host monthly challenge groups (purchase is required for those) but I am tossing the idea around for a free clean eating challenge 🙂

    My coach email is randaderkson @ gmail . com

  2. Best of luck on your weightloss journey, I look forward to reading about your success! It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day stuff that needs to get done and lose track of fitness goals but I know you can do it!

  3. I don’t wear a wedding ring either never have, I wear a chain round my neck. I have a fear of having the ring getting caught in the machines I work with.

  4. Way to go!!! I’ll join you, because NONE of my wedding rings fit. I miss my cheekbones.

  5. You can do it! Love how you listed your inspirations, cant wait to see your progress

  6. It is so easy to put yourself on the back burner as a mom. Sometimes it’s necessary but often kids will do well to see you take care of yourself. They will learn good habits and they will learn that loving someone doesn’t mean you sacrifice yourself. Who knows they may have fun on a play date while your getting your workout on!

    I’ll be looking forward to your follow ups!

  7. This too is something I want to do, well to be honest need to do. With one thinga dn another the weight has crept up and its all come at the same place which makes it look even worse.

    God luck on your weight loss journey x

  8. I’m proud of you. One of my passions is encouraging women to believe that their need to eat well and exercise regularly is as important as other family members’ needs. And you’re right, our children benefit when their moms are strong and health.

  9. Go you! I’m trying to do the same but I find it particularly hard when I’m stressed. Stress makes me want to eat, even if I’m not hungry.

    Good luck on your weight loss journey. Looks like you’re in the perfect frame of mind to make it happen.

  10. Did you know that I had actually allotted this time as my time to work out today? And instead I am reading your blog post about getting healthy. WEIRD! Now I think I have to go do some jumping jacks or something.

  11. You go girl! I will be following you, I am only 17 weeks ahead of you and have just lost 10kgs, so will be interested in all you can blog about on this subject.
    Here’s to a fitter, healthier you/me/us!

  12. I’m so proud of you for making the decision to change, but also being realistic about it. I have gained so much weight and I really want to lose it, but I can’t seem to get myself motivated. Maybe you pushing yourself will push me too.

    Keep up the good work!

  13. I don’t like the words fat or diet either. Instead we say they have extra weight, and the word diet is what you eat on a regular basis. You have to do a lifestyle change I did this years ago at age 17. I had to lay down on the bed, hold my zipper together while my mom pulled the zipper up. Like you I refused to buy new clothes, but aimed to fit into what I already had.

    I’m not going to say it is easy that would be a bold face lie. For exercise be sure to find something that is fun, or you will just give up. You might even want to find a friend to work out with. Whatever you do just make sure you enjoy it, oh and the drooling over foods you promised your self you won’t eat does go away.

    I command you for taking the first step, you can do it, so just go girl.

    1. Thanks. It’s the first step that is tough. I’ve always had to work to keep a healthy weight but after my boys were born it all went out the window. Ready to get back to my usual self.

  14. Good luck on your weight loss journey, looking forward to hearing of your progress 🙂

    1. Thanks, Tara. I believe just getting started can be one of the most difficult parts. Now I just gotta keep chugging along!

  15. Good luck with reaching you goals and being the healthy slim mom you want to be. You will be teaching your kids good lessons if you care for yourself as much as you care for them. Hopefully there are some healthy recipes you all love so that you can all share the same things at meal times and you won’t feel like you’re missing out or have to make an extra effort to be healthy.

    1. I’ve already made some good healthy choices — boring but healthy at this point. It’s just easier that way with trying to get meals my two kiddos will eat along with me 🙂

  16. Sadly, I have’t worn my wedding ring since shortly after the wedding. I had my first child 9 months later and a second six months later. One of my goals is for that ring to fit again. The good news is that my replacement ring is too big and I wear it on my middle finger now… getting closer..

    I can’t wait to read about your progress! Thanks so much for linking up with us at Tips and Tricks Tuesday!!

  17. No, you ARE Jennifer. You may have fat but you are not fat. You are so much more than fat. In order to succeed, you must change your internal dialog. Write down all your positive attributes. So you need to lose a few pounds, it does not diminish all your pluses. Keep the faith and move forward.

  18. I think you are making a great choice in doing it now. I am making that same choice, but after the kids have gone off to college. Best wishes.

  19. I’m trying so hard to lose weight as well. I was 237 pounds and I’m finally at 180.6 as of this morning. It has been a long and slow battle and I hit a plateau around 185 for six freakin months! I have been so discouraged. But the weight is slowly coming off again. Just give yourself time. Know that this will take a couple years, not a couple of months. At some point you will level out and you will think you’ll never lose another pound. Just ride it out, even if it takes six months. I wish you all the best. I’m going to check into that app you mentioned. Feel free to contact me. Maybe we can help each other through this, because I gotta tell you, I’m PMSing right now and all I can think about is how great a cinnamon roll would be. Sigh.

  20. That’s fantastic, Jennifer! Keep up the good work! Fitness Pal is a great tool.. I’m about to give it another go, I’ve challenged myself started tomorrow to cut out all bread and flour-based foods from now until Thanksgiving.

  21. I had to stop wearing mine a couple of years ago and recently was able to fit it again. I got just as many questions when I put it back on as I did when I stopped wearing it. I am also on myfitnesspal though I am a big slacker lately.

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