Anger books for kids are a great way to start teaming kids how to manage their own anger.
Children get angry.
It’s just a fact of life.
But when your child gets explosive angry, it can be time to start addressing how to help your child manage those feelings.
Anger Books for Kids
Anger books for kids is a perfect way of approaching the discussion and getting it going.
For toddlers, talking about scary feelings and helping them understand simple ways to cope can make a huge difference.
Older kids may benefit from workbooks and more in-depth anger books to help address your child’s specific hot buttons and behaviors.
Find these anger books for kids at your local library or purchase through the affiliate links provided for your convenience.
I’ve broken down this list into several age categories:
- Anger Books for Toddlers and Preschoolers
- Anger Books for Elementary-Age and Middle School
- Anger Books for Teens
- Anger Books for Parents of Angry Kids
You can find these books at your local library or purchase them through the affiliate links provided for your convenience.
Books for Toddlers and Preschoolers about Being Mad
When Sophie Gets Angry–Really, Really Angry…
Caldecott Honor Winner. Everybody gets angry sometimes. For children, anger can be very upsetting.
Parents, teachers, and children can talk about it. People do lots of different things when they get angry.
In this Caldecott-honor book, kids will see what Sophie does when she gets angry. What do you do?
Cool Down and Work Through Anger (Learning to Get Along®)
Everyone gets angry, so it’s never too early for children to learn to recognize feelings of anger, express them, and build skills for coping with anger in helpful, appropriate ways.
Children learn that it is okay to feel angry—but not okay to hurt anyone with actions or words.
They discover concrete skills for working through anger: self-calming, thinking, getting help from a trusted person, talking and listening, apologizing, being patient, and viewing others positively.
Reassuring and supportive, the book helps preschool and primary-age children see that when they cool down and work through anger, they can feel peaceful again.
Angry Octopus: An Anger Management Story
This engaging story quiets the mind and relaxes the body so your child can let go of anger and fall asleep peacefully.
Children love to unwind and relax with this fun exercise known as progressive muscular relaxation.
Children relate to the angry octopus in this story as the sea child shows him how to take a deep breath, calm down, and manage his anger.
This effective stress and anger management technique focuses awareness on various muscle groups and breath to create a complete resting of the mind and body.
Progressive Muscular Relaxation can lower stress and anxiety levels. It can be used to decrease pain and anger.
When I Feel Angry (Way I Feel Books)
Anger is a scary emotion for young children, their parents, and caregivers.
As this little bunny experiences the things that make her angry, she also learns ways to deal with her anger–ways that won’t hurt others.
Llama Llama Mad at Mama
Does any child like to go shopping? Not Llama Llama!
But Mama can’t leave Llama at home, so off they go to Shop-O-Rama. Lots of aisles. Long lines. Mama is too busy to notice that Llama Llama is getting m-a-d!
And before he knows it, he’s having a full-out tantrum!
Mama quickly calms him down, but she also realizes that they need to make shopping more fun for both of them.
Hands Are Not for Hitting (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)
Created in response to requests from parents, preschool teachers, and childcare providers, this book belongs everywhere young children are. Includes tips for parents and caregivers.
It’s never too soon for children to learn that violence is never okay, hands can do many good things, and everyone is capable of positive, loving actions.
In this bright, inviting, durable board book, simple words and full-color illustrations teach these important concepts in ways even very young children can understand.
Teeth Are Not for Biting
Teeth Are Not for Biting gives reasons why children might want to bite.
Little mouths feel sore when new teeth come in; sometimes kids bite when they’re hungry, tired, cranky, frustrated, angry, bored, distressed, or seeking attention.
Author Elizabeth Verdick suggests positive things children can do instead of biting: chew a chewy toy, drink a cold drink, get a hug, tell a grown-up.
This book also includes helpful tips for parents and caregivers.
I Was So Mad
Mercer Mayer’s very popular Little Critter stars in a picture book about feeling angry.
With minimal text and funny illustrations to spell out every new situation, the book shows the Critter family saying no to everything Little Critter wants to do.
Finally, mad at the world, Little Critter announces he will run away.
When pals come by and ask him to come and play baseball, our young hero’s mood quickly changes.
He grabs his bat and heads off for the game, telling himself he can run away another day if he is still so mad.
Books on Anger for Elementary-Age and Middle School
Soda Pop Head
His real name is Lester, but everyone calls him Soda Pop Head.
Most of the time he is pretty happy, but when things seem to be unfair his ears gets hot, his face turns red and he blows his top!
Lesters dad comes to his rescue by teaching him a few techniques to loosen the top and cool down before his fizz takes control.
Soda Pop Head will help your child control his/her anger while helping them manage stress.
A Volcano in My Tummy: Helping Children to Handle Anger
A Volcano in My Tummy: Helping Children to Handle Anger presents a clear and effective approach to helping children and adults alike understand and deal constructively with children’s anger.
Using easy to understand yet rarely taught skills for anger management, including how to teach communication of emotions, A Volcano in My Tummy offers engaging, well-organized activities which help to overcome the fear of children’s anger which many adult care-givers experience.
What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Problems With Anger (What to Do Guides for Kids)
This interactive self-help book is the complete resource for educating, motivating, and empowering children to work toward change.
What To Do When Your Temper Flares guides children and their parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques used to treat problems with anger.
Engaging examples, lively illustrations, and step-by-step instructions teach children a set of “anger dousing” methods aimed at cooling angry thoughts and controlling angry actions, resulting in calmer, more effective kids.
How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger (Laugh & Learn)
Anger is a part of life. We can’t avoid it, we shouldn’t stuff it, and we can’t make it go away. Kids need help learning how to manage their anger.
How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger speaks directly to them and offers strategies they can start using immediately.
Blending solid information and sound advice with jokes and funny cartoons, it guides kids to understand that anger is normal and can be expressed in many ways—some healthy, some not.
I’m Not Bad, I’m Just Mad: A Workbook to Help Kids Control Their Anger
Most children learn to stop throwing temper tantrums, talking back, and refusing to go to bed or take a bath at an early age.
But some children have trouble with impulsivity and self-control.
Left unaddressed, these issues can lead to some very serious problems in adolescence and adulthood.
Anger control problems are the number one reason that children are referred for therapy, affecting children as young as three years old.
Since anger problems in children may indicate other significant concerns, it pays to address anger in kids as soon as possible.
If a child in your life has an anger problem, you need the friendly, effective activities in this book.
Zach Gets Frustrated
Zach and his family go to the beach, but Zach is having a lousy day.
First, he dropped his toothbrush in the toilet. Then his best friend went to someone else’s birthday party instead of joining him. But most frustrating of all, he can’t get his kite to fly!
Zach kicks sand, yells angry words, and asks his dad if they can just go home now.
Instead, his dad teaches him a simple, three-step approach to get a handle on frustration and find a way to enjoy himself even when things aren’t going his way.
Anger Management Books for Teenagers
Mindfulness for Teen Anger: A Workbook to Overcome Anger and Aggression
As a teen, the relationship skills you learn now can help you thrive in the future.
With a little help, and by cultivating compassion and understanding for yourself and others, you will be able to transform your fear and anger into confidence and kindness.
Chillax!: How Ernie Learns to Chill Out, Relax, and Take Charge of His Anger
In this graphic novel for tweens, Ernie learns about his angry outbursts with the help of a friendly and understanding school counselor and discovers that he has the power to control and calm himself.
Once he practices the skills to control and manage his angry outbursts, Ernie finds that he can be a happier person as well as a better friend, brother, and son.
Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life for Teens
A workbook that can help! In this book, you’ll find new ways of managing your feelings so that you’ll be ready to handle anything life sends your way.
Based in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), a type of therapy designed to help people who have a hard time handling their intense emotions, this workbook helps you learn the skills you need to ride the ups and downs of life with grace and confidence.
The Anger Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal with Anger and Frustration
Designed to help you understand how both your mind and body respond to anger, how you can handle this anger constructively, and relaxation techniques for dealing with anger in a healthy way, so that you can not only control your anger, but your life as a whole.
The activities in this workbook will help you notice things that make you angry, handle frustrating situations without getting angry, and effectively communicate your feelings.
Most of all, these activities can help you learn to change how you respond to anger. Change is not easy, but with the right frame of mind and set of skills, you can do it.
Parenting Books to Help with Angry Kids
Bloom: 50 Things to Say, Think, and Do with Anxious, Angry, and Over-the-Top Kids
Written for real parents with anxious, angry and over-the-top kids, Bloom is a brain-based approach to parenting all children.
Stop second-guessing the way you handle misbehaviors, and learn why they occur in the first place.
Come to understand the developmental origins of behaviors and take a fresh look at how you can address them with skill-building techniques that produce real and lasting change.
Taking its lead from neuroscience and best practices in early childhood mental health, Bloom offers parents, teachers and care providers the words, thoughts and actions to raise calm, confident children, while reducing the need for consequences and punishment.
What Angry Kids Need: Parenting Your Angry Child Without Going Mad
Anger experts Jennifer Anne Brown and Pam Provonsha Hopkins, western Washington counselors who have worked with angry children their entire careers, have written what has already been described as a comprehensive look at children s anger.
In language every parent, caregiver and teacher can understand (even when exhausted and frustrated), it explains why kids get angry, what anger management skills they (and the entire family) can be taught, how adults can model anger management techniques and how adults can cope when nothing seems to work.
The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
In this fully revised and updated book, Dr. Ross Greene helps you understand why and when your child does these things and how to respond in ways that are nonpunitive, nonadversarial, humane, and effective.
Help your children and students better understand their emotions:
- Feelings and Emotions Cards and Poster
- “The Feelings You Feel” Lyrics for parents to sing to kids
- Emotions Postcards
- How to Deal with Temper Tantrums
Like these anger books? Find even more engaging book lists for kids with more than 100 book-themed reading lists!
Hmmm…that Mindfulness one for teens looks promising!
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I’m a BIG fan of mindfulness…. if I can just get my kids to calm down enough 😉 But I definitely believe in it for older kids (and adults!)
Jenny,
Thank you so much for sharing BLOOM as a resource for parents! Dr. Kenney and I know it’s going to change the lives of millions of kids and parents across the globe!
All good wishes and happy parenting,
Wendy @Kidlutions
I actually hesitated to include it because it’s so new but I ended up buying the ebook to see what it was all about because I was interested in it for myself!
This list came at a perfect time for our family. We are always looking for more books on how to calm down and be less frustrated. Thanks for sharing!
Yep. I was revisiting some of these for the family and it inspired me to work toward making the list. Hope you find the right one for you.
Great resources! Have you checked out I Feel Mad! Tips for Kids on Managing Angry Feelings? I Feel Mad! Tips for Kids on Managing Angry Feelings (How to Make & Keep Friends Workbooks) (Volume 1) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692531211/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_mkJ0ybPJZN7Q9
What about ANGRY MANGRY?
A great Australian Children’s Book that highlights a novel way of cooling down!
I don’t know that one… thanks for the tip!