When my husband and I celebrated our 10th anniversary, the big 10 seems like a crazy milestone.
When I was first married, I remember wondering how on earth people made it to this point. A full decade with the same person? That was just nuts.
And yet, here we were, arriving at the 10-year mark.
We were in our 30s when we got married. At that point in our lives, we knew pretty quickly if we were meant to be together or not. We knew what we were looking for in a partner and fell madly in love without hesitation. After all, we had earned our stripes on the dating scene from years of bars, bad dates and set-ups.
Looking back, I’m not sure how I understood that through thick and thin, Scott was the one person I wanted to be by my side — or as I call, “in the foxhole with.” You see, in wartime, soldiers would dig a small hole, usually big enough for one to two soldiers, to use as shelter in the middle of a battle area. They called this a foxhole.
Throughout the years, my husband and I have had our share of trials and triumphs. And through them all, I’ve always been thankful my husband was the person I was in the foxhole with. Oh sure, there were days (maybe even weeks) when we drove each other crazy and perhaps didn’t even like each other that much. But we always loved each other and embraced the idea that, come hill or high water, we were in this together.
Once kids entered the marriage, the focus on “us” became a focus on “we” as a family. We’re just happy to sneak in a date night every once in a while. But we’ve always said that it was the two of us when this family started and it will be just the two of us at the end of the day as well.
So as we look at having spent more than a decade together, celebrating the “day” of our anniversary seems important and yet unnecessary all at the same time. It is just one day in the journey of our marriage, but I’m so glad I’m celebrating it with him.
UPDATE: We’re celebrating our 15th anniversary soon. Scott will be traveling on the day of our anniversary but I’m okay with that… our marriage is still a journey that we’re happy to be celebrating together – no matter what the day is.