10 Years of Marriage Just Another Day

When my husband and I celebrated our 10th anniversary, the big 10 seems like a crazy milestone.

When I was first married, I remember wondering how on earth people made it to this point. A full decade with the same person? That was just nuts.

And yet, here we were, arriving at the 10-year mark.

We were in our 30s when we got married. At that point in our lives, we knew pretty quickly if we were meant to be together or not. We knew what we were looking for in a partner and fell madly in love without hesitation. After all, we had earned our stripes on the dating scene from years of bars, bad dates and set-ups.

Looking back, I’m not sure how I understood that through thick and thin, Scott was the one person I wanted to be by my side — or as I call, “in the foxhole with.” You see, in wartime, soldiers would dig a small hole, usually big enough for one to two soldiers, to use as shelter in the middle of a battle area. They called this a foxhole.

Throughout the years, my husband and I have had our share of trials and triumphs. And through them all, I’ve always been thankful my husband was the person I was in the foxhole with. Oh sure, there were days (maybe even weeks) when we drove each other crazy and perhaps didn’t even like each other that much. But we always loved each other and embraced the idea that, come hill or high water, we were in this together.

Once kids entered the marriage, the focus on “us” became a focus on “we” as a family. We’re just happy to sneak in a date night every once in a while. But we’ve always said that it was the two of us when this family started and it will be just the two of us at the end of the day as well.

So as we look at having spent more than a decade together, celebrating the “day” of our anniversary seems important and yet unnecessary all at the same time. It is just one day in the journey of our marriage, but I’m so glad I’m celebrating it with him.

UPDATE: We’re celebrating our 15th anniversary soon. Scott will be traveling on the day of our anniversary but I’m okay with that… our marriage is still a journey that we’re happy to be celebrating together – no matter what the day is.


  1. Maria Iemma says:

    Congratulations. My husband and I were married for 34 years and then he passed away three years ago. I miss him more each day and I am glad that we celebrated our marriage not only on our anniversary but were always aware of what a great gift it was for us to meet and marry and raise a family. Enjoy each day.

  2. What a great post!

    Congratulations on 10 years. I just married back in March and find it amazing how a few months have buzzed by so quick.

    10 years will be here in no time!

    Congrats again…what a happy time!

  3. Great post! My husband & I have only been married almost 6 years, but we’ve been together for 10, and we just had a very similar discussion. We usually make a big deal out of the day we got engaged, because it was (accidentally!) the same day his parents got engaged 50 years prior, and it ended up being our baby’s viability date. But this year, we just zoomed right past it and didn’t think about it until later. We were too busy living up to those promises that we made. That seemed more important than the day we made them.

  4. Happy happy anniversary to you! My 10 year wedding anniversary is in June, I’m quite excited about it! Congrats!

  5. Congratulations on your 10 year anniversary. Time goes by fast. To many many more years together.

  6. Congratulations and to many more to come!! Time flies by fast when you are in love. Hubby and I have been together for 18 years but have been married for 13. He is my bestfriend, my partner, my companion, my confidant.

    Love is a beautiful thing. It take work and commitment but it is worth it.

  7. Nena Sinclair says:

    Happy 10th Anniversary! It sounds like you and your hubby have a great relationship! Here’s to many, many more happy years together! 🙂

  8. rebeka deleon says:

    marriage is def. hard work. i hope to be as lucky and last 10 years and still be in love like the beginning.

  9. Congratulations, on ten years! I hope your next ten years will be sweet, beautiful, and full of many happy memories!

  10. Congrats on 10 years! It’s a major milestone! We have been married 28 years. It’s always work, but worth it!

  11. Congratulations! I am coming up on my 10 year anniversary next year but we got married a bit younger and without as much understanding. I am glad that we have made it through the ups and downs and I love your perspective on being married as being in the foxhole with your partner. Thanks so much for sharing!

  12. This is absolutely beautiful. Congratulations! I love your analogy to the foxhole. I didn’t know what that was until I read this post. Thank you for sharing with us at Countdown in Style. Don’t forget to come back on Friday to see if you are featured. 🙂

  13. Congrats! DH & I have been together 10 years, married for 6 now. It’s crazy how time flies. I like your statement that you still end the day as just the two of you. It hits home because lately it’s been about us & the little one but we definitely need to take advantage of our time together when the baby is asleep.

  14. Congratulations Jenny! 10 years is a lifetime for most people since most don’t make it that far. It truly is a blessing.

    Thanks for sharing and linking up with Countdown in Style! Don’t forget to come back on Friday to see if you were featured!


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