Comments on: Keep Your Judgments To Yourself https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/ Mom Smarter! Thu, 09 Jan 2025 21:20:02 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Tania https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-103399 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-103399 I can totally relate! Not just from teachers, try family members…

]]> By: Jennifer Hughes https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-62209 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-62209 In reply to Karla.

So smart to connect with the principal!

]]> By: Karla https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-62173 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-62173 I’ve gotten to the point where I call and mention it to the principal now when we have an issue. My son is really particular about car line – where he will get out, how he will get out, how he will let them help him…. and he is super picky about his clothes – so the principal has instructed all the teachers how to assist him and to not comment in a negative way on his outfit.

They still say things like cool outfit, but don’t say things like – those look like pjs any more….. 🙂

]]> By: Jennifer https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-59313 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-59313 In reply to Jayne.

Jayne — I think all of your points are very valid. And I can certainly see how some teachers do worry if they see kids that may be lacking in coats and/or good hygiene. I hope that teachers also recognize that parents get these types of comments all the time. And when you’re a sensory parent, it is even that much more so…. comments on behavior, how they’re dressed. It’s quite exhausting.

And trust me, if you had heard the *way* this teacher spoke, you’d know that she wasn’t concerned but more interested in pushing her opinion.

]]> By: Jayne https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-59309 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-59309 This is spoken in a gentle, non-judgmental tone from someone who has her own sensory issues (I hate to put lotion on my hands so much that I’ll practically let them crack and bleed when it gets cold, for instance) and gets it and who watched kids come into my school with weather inappropriate clothing.

That teacher has no way of knowing your child has sensory challenges. Although I’m assuming she’e not Vman’s regular teacher. What that teacher does know is that there are lots of kids that come to school clothed inappropriately for weather. And she is mostly likely making a gentle reminder not because she’s out to offend you, but because she is thinking about your child. She may even be looking to gently ask if your family needs assistance with cold weather clothing without coming right out and asking you.

FWIW, when I taught preschool those types of issues, clothing/hygiene, were noted. There are times when it falls into the neglect category although it takes a lot for it to get there.

I wish sometimes that parents of special needs kids didn’t get offended so easily and tried to understand that not everyone else is up to speed on every issue out there. And I wish that they looked at times like this as a learning opportunity for the ADULTS. It would be a lot simpler and more beneficial to have asked for an opportunity to meet with this teacher than to get angry at her. Explain. Then maybe the next time she comes across this issue, she will have more life experience and choose better words.

Again, I hope this isn’t taken wrongly…

]]> By: Lauren https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-59166 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-59166 I always think it is crazy on what people will say to others, without knowing ANYTHING about them or what may be going on!

]]> By: Karen https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-59127 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-59127 I have dressing problems with my kids, too. But I appreciate comments like what the teacher in the column said-it backs up what I’ve been saying to my kids. I get a ‘it takes a village’ feeling. However, if someone went to my kid after I had said no, that is NOT backing me up. I would speak up to that person.

]]> By: Jennifer https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-59122 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-59122 In reply to Alena Belleque (The Homemade Creative).

Moms ALWAYS know best!

]]> By: Alena Belleque (The Homemade Creative) https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-59104 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-59104 Even though my daughter doesn’t have sensory issues, I get where you’re coming from. The other day we were at a friend’s and this came up. It was a breezy 60 with warm sun, and my girl was in a maxi dress and flip flops — and all the other kids were bundled in winter coats. I had boots and a jacket in the car, and told her to tell me if she got cold. Another mom asked if I wanted to borrow a jacket, and when I declined offered several more times, and even asked my daughter. Then another mom came, and the next thing I knew, she’d put a jacket on my girl. I felt really judged. 🙁 And? She got hot, and took it off anyway.

]]> By: Jennifer https://mommyevolution.com/keep-judgments-to-yourself/#comment-59004 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=12077#comment-59004 In reply to Mommy Catharsis.

This post just poured out onto the keyboard…. some days are just like that! And today we had to wear winter coats for the first time… I basically put the hood on his head (didn’t slip his arms through the coat) and went to school that way. I’m taking the victories where I can!

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