Comments on: How to Stay Calm During Your Child’s Meltdown https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/ Mom Smarter! Fri, 10 Jan 2025 00:40:49 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.4 By: Angela Pruess https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-104218 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-104218 In reply to Heather.

How exciting that you were able to have conscious discipline training as part of your teaching career! I think that would be enormously helpful for all teachers to have! I’m going to look into it further!! So glad you found the article helpful:)

]]> By: Angela Pruess https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-104217 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-104217 In reply to Deborah Sale Butler.

I love the term ‘instant android’! Great way to put it and completely agree!

]]> By: The Jenny Evolution https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-103682 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-103682 In reply to Heather.

It’s tough to keep our cool! We’re all human… and let’s face it – Kids may be young but they are masters at pressing our buttons. We love the little squirts anyway 😉

]]> By: Heather https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-103669 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-103669 Great tips! I’m a big fan of “the pretzel” deep breathing from the Conscious Discipline training I did as a teacher. I do it now when I’m about to lose it with my kids, and it really does help. Thanks for sharing this on Everything Kids – I think all parents should have tools like this in their emotional toolkit.

]]> By: The Jenny Evolution https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-103550 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-103550 In reply to Leslie.

While many families with sensory kids manage meltdowns on a regular basis, I think these tips are great for any parent because all kids have their moments… but we love them anyway!

]]> By: Leslie https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-103543 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-103543 My kids haven’t been diagnosed with SPD, but I can see how these tips would help them out. Staying calm is so difficult for me sometimes, but I can definitely tell that it helps when I’m able to manage it.

]]> By: Deborah Sale Butler https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-103472 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-103472 Great advice. In my mind, I have to become an “instant android” and react with calm detachment. I first learned that trick when my son was an infant. When I was running on fumes and my son started crying at 2 am, I turned off my emotions and dealt with whatever he needed until the crying stopped. The hard part comes as he gets bigger, both from a physical standpoint and a personal one.

For example, last night he got frustrated with his computer – actually the Windows laptop his Dad had let him use. Our almost-ten year old Mac-based son had unwittingly downloaded a bunch of viruses on the PC and nearly bricked the computer. In addition to dealing with a gale-force child, we had to save the laptop. We also had to deal with telling him that there would be no more laptop (until he can understand why he can’t download software). “Why” is still hard for him. In addition to processing emotions, processing language/concepts can also contribute to meltdowns. And it can be hard for a grown-up to instantly process that the boy who taught himself Adobe Aftereffects and Greek, can’t remember to avoid EXE programs. Patience and detachment, indeed.

]]> By: The Jenny Evolution https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-103471 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-103471 In reply to Susan.

Seriously…. couldn’t have said it better! Our reactions are just that — ours. And while it can be tough to separate our feelings from our child’s, it’s a terrific way to put a meltdown into perspective.

]]> By: Susan https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-103468 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-103468 My favorite advice comes from Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements,” and he states simply, “Don’t take anything personally.” What he means is, if another person is upset, it actually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with how they perceive the world. As we know with our sensory kiddos, thei meltdowns are all about their in ability to handle their world in that moment. When we are upset by this, it’s all about our own personal stuff rising up in response; like our fear of being judged by other people if we’re in public, or our feelings of inadequacy popping up as “if I can’t soothe my child, I’m not a good parent.” Our angst in that moment is all about us (I’m doing something wrong, what will they think of me, why can’t I get this right, why did I get the difficult child). When I focus on my son and remember that his meltdown is all about him, I can put my own stuff on a shelf for a while and focus on him and what he needs in that moment (screw the rest of the world). The calmer I’ve been able to stay, the more easily my son could unwind out of his meltdown (they pick up on our angst big time). It’s all a process and with my son now 13, I’m still learning.

]]> By: The Jenny Evolution https://mommyevolution.com/how-to-stay-calm-meltdown/#comment-103450 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=19948#comment-103450 In reply to Angela Pruess.

Great article, Angela. And I think these tips will be extremely helpful for a lot of folks out there…. with sensory kids and not.

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