Comments on: Special Needs Mom: Beware the Frenemy https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/ Mom Smarter! Thu, 09 Jan 2025 21:36:38 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1 By: The Jenny Evolution https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-106786 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-106786 In reply to Debbie S..

It definitely makes it tougher when it’s family… because family is already complicated enough, right?

]]> By: Debbie S. https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-106780 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-106780 In reply to Debbie S..

My son is an adult now. I should clarify that. One more thing to add. Sometimes it can feel lonely, but it is better than being around people that really don’t add any happiness to you or your families lives. I do have a couple good, caring friends and treasure them dearly.

]]> By: Debbie S. https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-106779 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-106779 I have been dealing with frenemies for many, many years, and I too have a special needs child. I hear you when you say you have become selfish, so have I. I just don’t have the time for fake friends, and neither does my heart. I have lost friends, or I thought they were my friends, and I am NOT going back for more. The thing is lots are family. thank you for this post, it made me feel that I made okay choices by unfriending fake friends.

]]> By: Jennifer Hughes https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-93953 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-93953 In reply to Susan @ Oh My! Creative.

It looks like you’ve raised an amazing son! And one that has brought much joy to you 😀

]]> By: Susan @ Oh My! Creative https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-93925 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-93925 Sounds like we are living life the same…with many joys and struggles. Honestly, I don’t talk about my son much unless people ask. Most of my friends are longtime friends and they care very deeply, but new friends don’t know much about him or understand the severity of his disabilities. I understand that they can’t possibly know how challenging our lives are. I feel it is rather a hidden life of struggles. I often say if I had cameras in my house no one would believe what goes on behind our doors!

My daughter came up with the frenemy term in high school – she had a classic frenemy friend 🙂

Here is a little more about my son and our lives. We have had the most difficult year with him and behavior. Looking forward to better days ahead!

http://www.ohmy-creative.com/personal/celebrating-sons-18th-birthday-personal-story/

XO,
Susan

]]> By: Jennifer Syamala https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-93896 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-93896 This is soooo true. Thanks for your understanding. How do u find these true authentic people? I have not found many.

]]> By: Jennifer Hughes https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-93814 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-93814 In reply to Jessica.

You are absolutely NOT the only one! I think it is interesting in how we are so selfless with our families, but selfish when it comes to how we spend our time outside of our kids.

]]> By: Jennifer Hughes https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-93812 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-93812 In reply to Full Spectrum Mama.

Hugs and love!!!!

]]> By: Merri Lewis https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-93809 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-93809 I totally agree–and I love the Frenemy label! I guess it’s just a part of life to have the Frenemy Factor lurking at gatherings. It is one of the hardest things to deal with because of how deeply the Frenemy can cut through a heart that is already breaking for their child. And, it is good for us, I think, to learn to set the boundaries as you have. It’s not fun, but when we cut out the drama and the unnecessary parts that drain us, we are better off…

]]> By: Jessica https://mommyevolution.com/beware-the-frenemy/#comment-93804 https://mommyevolution.com/?p=16910#comment-93804 In reply to Full Spectrum Mama.

Isn’t it funny how having a child with special needs really shows us who our true friends are? My son’s disability has clarified so many things for me and, like you, has made me selfish about how I spend my time. I don’t have time for those who are anything less than genuine towards me, my son, and my family. Glad to hear I am not the only one!

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